It never ceases to amaze me how my mother in law goes out of her way to please her children. At times I am left wondering how my husband can be so rude as to ask of certain tasks. But then I discovered that most mothers would do these tasks even if it wasn't asked of them. Though I simply cannot bring myself to ask of the same. It is acceptable for children in the Punjabi Culture to ask of their mothers excessive errands, as their mothers are only too willing to oblige. Apart from the fact that they are caring, like every mother is for their children. The concept being that when they are aging and need to be cared for their children will return the favour.
Since living with my husband's family I have seen my mother in law do some pretty monotonous tasks at the request of my husband or brother in law. These are tasks that I wouldn't even dare ask my own parents without being given a glare of disbelief. Here are some of the most outrageous tasks my mother in law does on a regular basis on top of the usual tasks that a mother does such as cooking and cleaning. It certainly is by no means a definitive list as I know she does a lot more than what I see.
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A Punjabi Mother
Warms Drinking Water In Winter
This one I find quite entertaining just thinking about it. Winter time is cold in Punjab and our drinking water is left out at room temperature. However my mother in law will still warm up the drinking water on the stove top before serving it to my husband or brother in law. You wouldn't want to catch a cold from drinking cool water now would you!?
Wakes Up To Serve Dinner To Anyone Coming Home Late
My brother in law is excessively social and is forever coming home late after attending a wedding or event. I mean late as in usually after 10:00pm. It doesn't matter how late he is my mother in law will always jump straight out of bed as soon as she hears the door squeak open, to prepare his dinner and serve him.
Makes Roti At The Drop Of A Call
When I first heard my brother in law yell from his bedroom to his mother in the kitchen, "ROTI" I was taken aback. I thought how rude is that. But she dropped what she was doing and prepared fresh roti and curry for him then scurried off to serve him in his bed. This is the norm for Punjabi's, they will simply say roti, cha, dinner, whatever it is they want and off mother goes to prepare it. She will always do it at the drop of a call and with haste as if there was nothing else that was more important.
Prepares A Cup Of Milk For Bed
My husband comes home late from the gym every night and mum will have prepared a fresh cup of warm milk for my husband to take to bed with him. She does this half an hour before he is due to arrive home. So most nights she will wake from her slumber to heat up his dinner and prepare his milk for bed so that it is all ready for when he comes home.
Prepares Outfit In Advance
There is no doubt that my mother in law does all the washing and ironing for my husband and brother in law, however she usually also knows their social calendar so she knows to have certain clothes prepared. Such as having my husband's suit freshly pressed for the wedding he is due to attend in the following week. Or washing my brother in laws blazer and tailored pants so they are clean for a friend's birthday in a few days. Their outfits always seem to magically appear pressed and cleaned and they never even give a second thought to how they got that way.
So as you can see there is no way a wife can compete with her husband's mother - she will always be his number one! Read more about The Difficulties Of Being Married To An Indian.
What other things does your Punjabi Mother do?